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我們只有時間去愛，一切稍縱即逝。

  人的一生要有多少變化，真的誰都不知道，不管是你是我，都避不開生老病死，但如何讓自己在這一生的盡頭能無牽無掛，如Steve Jobs所說：「把每一天都當成生命中的最後一天。」那般去珍惜關愛自己身邊最重要的人，勇敢面對人生的每一刻，盡力讓自己沒有後悔。又如佛語：「來時一絲不掛！去時一縷輕煙；世事無常！活在當下。」

  朋友最近傳了一則新聞：「英國13歲少女 Athena 樂觀抗癌 逝世留下三千字遺言家人淚崩」的內容給我，而我也正逢親人剛過世不久，看我之後忍不住有感而發。

  人死化成灰，再也挽不回，但「逝者已矣，來者可追。」逝者已逝，我們可能後悔沒有在對方還活著的時候給予他幸福，因為我們一直以後以後總有時間可以在好好相處，卻忘了生命如此短暫無常，我們不知道自己何時需要前往另一個世界，所以如 Mark Twain所說：「生命如此短暫，我們沒有時間去爭吵、道歉、傷心、斤斤計較，我們只有時間去愛，一切稍縱即逝。」

  被留下來的人只能在悲傷之後，擦乾眼淚，將逝者留下的遺願和生命轉換成自己的生命動力，努力勇敢地將過好生命的的每一天，並且試著將兩人過往的美好的回憶與幸福經驗延續下去，這便是最棒的永恆，因為走了不代表就是遺忘，可以讓對方留存於心，直到自己闔眼的那一刻。

  就如同這位少女鼓勵她的家人的一段話：「快樂取決於我們自己。重要的或許不是故事是否有完美結局，而事故事本身。生活的目標就是有目標地去生活。」

  最後分享 Athena 留給她的家人完整的內容：

Happiness depends upon ourselves. Maybe it's not about the happy ending, maybe it's about the story.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose. The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

Happiness is a direction not a destination. Thank you for existing. Be happy, be free, believe, forever young. You know my name, not my story.

You have heard what I've done, but not what I've been through. Love is like glass, looks so lovely but it's easy to shatter.

Love is rare, life is strange, nothing lasts and people change. Every day is special, so make the most of it, you could get a life ending illness tomorrow so make the most of every day. Life is only bad if you make it bad.

If someone loves you, then they wouldn't let you slip away no matter how hard the situation is. Remember that life is full of ups and downs.

Never give up on something you can’t go a day without thinking about. I want to be that girl who makes the bad days better and the one that makes you say my life has changed since I met her!

Love is not about how much you say I love you – it’s about how much you can prove it’s true. Love is like the wind, you can feel it but you can't see it. I'm waiting to fall in love with someone I can open my heart to.

Love is not about who you can see spending your future with, it's about who you can't see spending your life without... Life is a game for everyone but love is the prize. Only I can judge me.

Sometimes love hurts. Now I’m fighting myself.  Baby I can feel your pain. Dreams are my reality. It hurts but it’s okay, I’m used to it.

Don't be quick to judge me, you only see what I choose to show you... you don't know the truth. I just want to have fun and be happy without being judged.

This is my life, not yours, don't worry about what I do. People gonna hate you, rate you, break you, but how strong you stand, that’s what makes you… you!

There's no need to cry because I know you'll be by my side.